The Stay At Home Girlfriend Trend ~ my thoughts as the Consultant of the High Class Woman.
A private client asked me for my opinion on this, so I did some research on social media and here is my take.
Personally I think it is a very good thing for a woman, in this case the stay at home girlfriend, to be provided for.
It is good to see a woman feeling worth being taken care of and having time to take good care of herself, without immediately feeling the need to go 50/50.
Stay at home girlfriends enjoy sleeping in, doing yoga, writing in their journal, going shopping, maybe decorating the home, taking a long bath, making healthy homemade foods, loving on their pets, taking their time, focusing on their interests, building their lives, living their cycle, all without stress.
I am happy for them.
The stay at home girlfriend has a happy, relaxed life and if you know anything about the dynamics of men and women, this is what a provider man will take pride in.
The fact that he can take care of and make his woman happy. And that is what the stay at home girlfriend gives in return; her happiness, ability to receive and trust.
I was a stay at home girlfriend, then got engaged and went back to university to study Physics, which my fiancé provided for. This was before Instagram, and TikTok and Youtube had just gotten started, so back then, I did not know this was a trend. I became a stay at home girlfriend, because it felt right for me at the time and I always do what I want with my life.
My fiancé had established a career when we met. He was happy to take care of me so I could do all the things I love all day long. I went to daily yoga classes, focused on running track and studied autodidact. He was an excellent chef and cooked lavish dinners for us after work. We took regular weekend trips and always extended his business trips.
After a while of being a stay at home girlfriend, I decided I wanted to go back to university and study Physics, which he was very supportive of. He bought me all the books, paid the fees and kept on providing for me.
It was actually my fiancé who encouraged me to take this step and who believed in my ability and aptitude for Physics, long before I did.
To me being a stay at home girlfriend, can be a wonderful season of life. Yet, many people take issue with this arrangement. Maybe because it triggers their own frustrations or negative assumptions about men, women, relationships and the topic.
If you as a woman are judgmental of a stay at home girlfriend, and if you were in a consultation session with me, I would ask you to turn inwards and honestly ask yourself why you feel this way?
- If a lifestyle is just not for you, or not in this season of your life, you could just simply live and let live. I believe feminism means women supporting women making different lifestyle choices.
- If you think this type of arrangement is unfair and things should be “modern” and 50/50, then my Blog is the right place for you to learn more about relationship dynamics and how romantic relationships are different from other relationships.
- If you think it makes a woman stupid and lazy, to just allow herself to receive and have an easy life, then the next best step would be to learn more about the art of receiving and how to stop the addiction to suffering. This often has to do with feeling worthy and trusting men.
- If you think a stay at home girlfriend or stay at home wife does only housework and mother men. The blog category Happy Housewife can help you to get a different perspective and solve some major issues, many women have around housework in their relationships.
Unfortunately many women who work outside the house, still do more housework than the men they live with, pay half the bills and also do the majority of the childcare.
- If you think the woman will end up depending financially and emotionally on the man, and this puts her in a trap, then that is a valid concern but not a given.
Whether you depend emotionally on him or not depends on how you approach the relationship and if you do your inner work and how well you are able to choose a man.
You will not depend on him financially, if you take charge of your financial future, and build something for yourself while you stay at home.
Conclusion:
Stay at home girlfriend can be a wonderful season of life and it depends on what you actually do during the time you are a stay at home girlfriend.
It can be a great opportunity to build something of your own, start a business, travel a lot, take a time out to dedicate it to something you always wanted to do.
Being a stay at home girlfriend, same as being a stay at home wife, which I am now, is a very good thing for a woman. It allows you to structure your days and life stress free and around your monthly cycle, which I personally prefer.
Same as with being a stay at home wife, my advice is to set yourself up financially, in case there is a change in arrangement. Since a girlfriend is legally not the same status as a wife, you need to pay attention here.
It does not matter what other people think of you being a stay at home girlfriend. Set yourself free as I did and give yourself permission to live your life and all its seasons for yourself.
Enjoy, Anina 💋
Find further reading here: Happy Housewife and Female Cycle.
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